Neurodivergent Relationship Coaching
ADHD & Autism Relationship Support That Focuses on Clarity, Connection, and Change
You’ve spent years trying to keep it all together—for your partner, your home, your job, your identity. But behind closed doors, you’re burned out. Emotionally, mentally, and physically.
Maybe you’ve just been diagnosed with ADHD or Autism (or both), and suddenly, your past makes sense—but your present feels like it’s unraveling. Your partner wants answers. You want peace. Neither of you knows what to do next.
You’ve likely heard:
“You need to fix this.”
- “You’re not trying hard enough.”
“I can’t keep doing this.”
Too often, partners see ADHD or Autism as something that needs to be “fixed.” But the issue isn’t who you are—it’s that no one showed you how to build systems that support your unique communication and executive functioning needs.
This coaching space is designed for individuals and couples navigating:
AuDHD relationship strain and miscommunication
Emotional shutdown from constant correction or sensory overload
Masking fatigue at home and at work
Relationship burnout from cycles of avoidance, over-functioning, or resentment
Unmet needs for clarity, regulation, and authentic connection
You shouldn’t have to choose between being accepted and being in a relationship.
When Being Yourself Feels Like Too Much—and Not Enough
Reconnect and Rebuild: What to Do When ADHD or AuDHD Was Missed Until Now
Many adults with ADHD or Autism go undiagnosed for decades. You learned to over-function, over-apologize, and over-mask just to keep relationships intact. But without knowing why certain things were difficult—like task-switching, emotional regulation, time management, or interpreting tone—it was easy for others (and yourself) to label it as laziness, selfishness, or forgetfulness.
Now that you finally have clarity, your partner may be angry, confused, or even skeptical. They may not understand that your brain works differently—and they may not care how it works. They just want things to change. Fast.
This often leads to:
Spouse burnout: a partner who’s emotionally checked out, resentful, or threatening to leave
Chronic masking: suppressing your needs to avoid conflict or rejection
Emotional shutdown: feeling frozen, hopeless, or constantly afraid to say or do the wrong thing
Guilt and shame: believing you’ve “ruined” the relationship
Hypervigilance: walking on eggshells trying to keep the peace
Self-erasure: losing your identity in the effort to keep others comfortable
This Isn’t About Blame. It’s About Building New Skills.
Relationship coaching gives you the structure and language to:
✅ Understand how executive dysfunction and sensory overload impact emotional availability
✅ Identify patterns of shutdown, masking, or over-accommodation that keep you disconnected
✅ Build clear, shared systems for routines, communication, and conflict repair
✅ Re-establish autonomy and interdependence—so no one has to “carry” the relationship alone
This isn’t talk therapy. It’s focused, skills-based coaching with real tools to help you move forward.
What You’ll Learn in Relationship Coaching
💬 Why traditional communication advice doesn’t work for neurodivergent minds—and how to do it differently
💬 How to express your needs without fear of conflict or shutdown
💬 How to manage emotional flooding, rejection sensitivity, and task paralysis in relationships
💬 How to rebuild trust and clarity after burnout, shutdown, or feeling “too much”
💬 How to identify and rewrite patterns of people-pleasing, avoidance, and unspoken resentment
💬 How to track real progress—using structure, not guesswork
Why Coaching with Victoria Is Different
With a background as a Licensed Therapist, Special Education Teacher, and ADHD Specialist, I bring a rare mix of neurodivergent-informed expertise and practical strategy to every session. I’ve worked with hundreds of couples and individuals who feel exactly like you do—overwhelmed, unseen, and stuck in painful cycles.
You’ll get:
30-minute virtual sessions to match your energy and focus
Tools rooted in executive function coaching, communication strategy, and lived neurodivergent experience
Support that’s affirming, direct, and solution-oriented
Respect for all identities, orientations, and relationship structures (LGBTQIA+ affirming, poly-aware, neurodiversity-affirming)
Action plans that translate into everyday life—not just theory
IEP/504-aligned language if applicable (especially for co-parenting situations)
You Don’t Have to Walk on Eggshells Anymore
You are not alone. Let’s make space for your truth.
Coaching Is Not Therapy—And That’s the Point
Coaching is not mental health treatment. It’s a structured, collaborative space focused on building actionable skills and reducing overwhelm. You won’t need a diagnosis to start, and you don’t need to explain why your brain works differently. I already understand that.
This space is for you to unmask, take up space, and finally build the kind of relationship—and identity—that works for you.
You Deserve Support That Works
You don’t need more criticism or shame. You needs tools, language, and support that recognize the realities of executive dysfunction and communication fatigue.
📅Book a coaching session today and let’s start rebuilding—together.
